39-year-old son refuses to let parents to meet his children after going no contact, but they find his number anyway and insist they meet for Mother’s Day: “She came down on me hard for denying the chance for reunion”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 16, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Hey there, ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Family is rough. We all have our stories of how horrible our parents treated us, or that awful thing they said to us that we never forgot about. It can sometimes even feel like a competition to see whose life was the worst, and who had the most happen to them. The truth is that everyone has something. Even people who grew up rich with loving parents have something that happened or that they were told that one could consider mistreatment. It's impossible to grow up in a perfect world, with actually perfect parents that never did anything wrong. It's also important to understand that when you do choose to have children, as much as you try to be a perfect parent, you're also going to instill trauma, bad memories, and hardships into them. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man whose parents had him when they were very young. As a result of having him too early in life, he grew up in a neglected home. He had to take himself to school, do everything himself, feed himself, and even sign signatures for teachers for himself. As an adult, he chose to go no contact, but you'll have to read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for not letting my parents join us for Mother's Day so they could meet and get to know my kids?

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    I (39m) have four children with my wife (37f). My wife nor my kids have ever met my parents or my siblings. I have been no contact for about 20 years now and while that was technically broken by my parents reaching out and me responding. I sent
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  • Maybe it's time for this man to cut contact with his sibling who spilled his contact information to the parents. There's no use trying to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you. Maybe his parents should have thought about the future when they chose to treat their son like garbage, instead of having a connection with him. 

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    three replies to their messages and that was it. So this was by no means intended to be a return to contact. However they wanted a relationship with me and with my children. And they asked if we could spend Mother's Day. together. They offered to host or
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    together. They offered to host or come to mine and my wife's house if we didn't want to travel with the kids. I said no, but they held onto the hope or expectation that I would say yes. I did not. They were contacting me all day yesterday until I went and blocked them.
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    A relative had passed on my contact info to them and I spoke to the same relative last night and she came down hard on me for denying the chance for a reunion and for refusing to let them come meet my kids and get to know them. She said it's not
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    thinking of my kids. I don't agree but I'll explain background now and see if you agree with the relative and my parents.
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    BG for those who need to know more info in order to give a verdict. I was born to younger parents. They were 19 and 20 when I was born. They were not good parents to me. I can't even say they were okay. They weren't very warm, weren't affectionate
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    or caring and I was made to feel like a burden. The reality was I existed in the same house as them but they could ignore me for days at a time without saying a word to me. They didn't make sure I was eating and sleeping. It was only kinda common for them to make sure I made it to the bus
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    stop. And that stopped once I was considered big enough to get myself out the door. Homework problem? Better go somewhere else for help or say f and let the teacher yell. I learned how to forge their signatures on homework and stuff from school that needed a
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    parents signature because they weren't about to do it for me.
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    HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY
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    I was 14 before they had more kids. And my siblings were kids they wanted. They turned into completely different people. They were loving parents who were far more involved, far more supportive and affectionate and caring. They did speak to me more after this shift in their
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    personalities BUT they did not step up as my parents. I still couldn't go to them with any problems, they didn't know or care if I ate or went to sleep at a good time. They still didn't involve themselves in my education. They never talked post-high school with me and my
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    guidance counselor tried to bring them in on the discussion but their go to excuse was they had two small children at home.
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    There were no more days at a time of not speaking to me but really they didn't have conversations with me. They'd say some things and occasionally I'd be asked a question about how things were going or whatever.
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    And during all that I got to see them being parents to my siblings that they were never willing to be for me. Back then it hurt a lot and for a few years after I went no contact it hurt too.
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    My decision to go no contact happened as a result of me realizing I'd need to accept them as they are or go no contact and I couldn't do the former.
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    From what I can gather, the reason my parents reached out is because both of my siblings have stated they do not want children and one or both has been :: d to prevent themselves.
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    FAMILY
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    having children so my parents were depr_sed about it and learned from the relative who gave them my details that I had children. AITA?
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    cthulularoo 15h ago Wow, I wouldn't blame you. Time to cut off that auntie too. NTA, the part of this is, it's still not about you! You're only a means to their grandkids! them.
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    They were sh parents and they'll be grandparents. Your kids won't miss much.
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    I wonder if they're the reason why your siblings are child free.
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    RevolutionaryDie... • 15h ago NTA Choices have consequences. Now they are forced to see what theirs are.
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    Elegant Platform... • 15h ago NTA. To be a grandparent, you have to be a parent first. They weren't parents to you then, so they don't get to be grandparents to your kids now.
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    Device Motor3938 • 15h ago So, they still don't want you, just your children. Block their number and your other relative too. NTA
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